When you don’t like what you do..When you are stuck


We are all faced with times where we feel we are stuck in a situation when we don’t want to be there, don’t want to do it but still have to hang on in there, coz that’s the only option you have or you don’t have a way out.  I have been there and I’m still there. So this post is not about ‘how to get yourself out of any situation that you don’t wish for’ as I haven’t mastered it myself.

I had an incident on my recent trip to my hometown in India and during my travel, I had a one-hour transit. It was lunch time and I was travelling with my one-year-old who was getting cranky. I too was feeling very hungry and wanted to grab something quick to eat as there wasn’t much time left. As soon as I saw a maggie noodle bar, I headed straight to it. There was a little girl, must be in her late teens working there preparing noodles for all the customers. The queue for the noodles was quite long and she was the only person billing and preparing food. I could see most of the customers getting annoyed and a few even left hungry, without grabbing their food. But the girl was undeterred by any of these and was in her own lost world, with a rueful face. Clearly, she didn’t like her job and god knows what she is going through. But in all her despair she is also putting so many hungry people in difficulty.

I don’t judge or conclude if her actions are right or wrong. However, I could for sure tell that by mourning over a difficult situation isn’t going to change things for her. Neither the negative energy that she surrounds herself with is going to appease her.

Most of us, during our difficult situations, behave similarly. We hide in a cocoon. Not only are we getting depressed but we hinder others and the harmony that exists within our family, work or anywhere we are related to.

When we start paying attention to simple things and enjoy these simple little things, value others time and presence, I honestly believe we will feel a lot better. And the positive vibe could even help us flip our present problems.

‘ No matter what you say you want, if you’ve got an underlying subconscious belief that it’s going to cause you pain or isn’t available to you, you won’t let yourself have it ‘



Making your fussy toddler eat


I generally call my little one a fussy eater. However my definition of fussy eater being him not having the food I serve. I do prepare him food that he likes but over these months I understand there isn’t any food that he really loves eating apart from his yogurt and chocolates. So I kept wondering is there something I need to improvise on. Do I have to cook  food more deliciously or do I have to present it in a more pleasing appetizing manner. Do I attempt to force feed him so he doesn’t stay empty stomach. These are not just ordinary thoughts but very distressing ones that stresses every mom out there. These thoughts are like plague and once we get into this viscous thought cycle we start thinking about all possible ways and tricks to get our little ones have their food.and this also ruins the harmony of the entire house. After all, all that a mom would ask for is to see her kid with a happy belly.

So how could this be tackled. Just like every other mom I went on reading articles, seeking help from mommy communities, watching YouTube vids and testing these approaches on my little one.
There were advises on force feeding, which I tried once and regret till date, when I once saw my son tremble while sleeping trying to close his mouth. That was such a pathetic sight that any mom would like to see. I realised how fragile our little ones are that just a single attempt could create such an impact and thinking about doing it as a practice was horrifying.
And then there was an advise to cut the intake of milk if he refuses to eat but I couldn’t do that as well. That made my little one very weak since he already hasn’t had his food and then to stop milk only made him brittle. That was the only source of energy and I dont want to force anything on him.
So I started preparing different food items to know if there might be something that he would love to eat. All these attempts only made me desperate and I started losing my patience and calm which was the very crux. Not to force anything on him. When nothing seems to work, when books or gurus,videos don’t help you, you get agitated by your own inability which starts to seep into anger towards our little ones.
Now after all these tantrums I realise there is no set path to make your fussy eater eat. There is nothing called a fussy eater. There are only impatient parents. The only key is to observe and allow our little ones to let us know what is the best way to handle them. Each kid is unique and their needs are different. Some kids would take a lot of time first playing with their food getting their hands dirty understanding the texture of the food and then slowly eat, until which we would not wait. We would have already declared he doesn’t like the food and would have gone ahead preparing something else.
There are also kids who would like to do a taste test prior eating a chunk of food and reject the food right away after their taste test, in which case we need to ensure the first bite is something that they would want to taste.
There are the other lot which just evades from food just by the sight of it, where the trick would be the place Finger food at random places of play so that they would eat them or present food in a  more enticing fashion. These are no brainer and everyone of us knew these stuff all along. But the key or the trick of trade as promised is to take the lead of our kids and let them decide how they want to be fed. Making it more nutritious and nourishing within the given limitations is something each mom has to figure out.
What is your take on this. Would love to hear your opinion on it.
Pic courtesy : littlefusspot

Must haves while flying with toddlers

I now know how tedious it could be flying with toddlers as I just went through it all alone and 9 hours on flight is no joke. Also it’s not just the travel time that you need to be worried about but the whole process from check-in to check out. Luckily I did do a little research prior my travel on how to keep my little now entertained for few hours which is a life saver.


So here’s my top list of must haves while you travel with your toddler. Any of these items could keep them contained for a max of 15 mins post which you will have to keep alternating with a new one
1. Drawing board:  I found mine at Harrods (in heathrow airport) and it costed me about 10 pounds. It’s worth every penny as the pen is attached to the board and you are saved from the strain of having to pick up the pen every time your kid drops it. And it also comes with a magic eraser that erases with just a swipe and a book attached to it. This kept my son busy for some time. I would definitely recommend it.
2. Stickers: I dint take with me a sticker book to reduce weight but just took some sticker sheets and my son whiled away time pasting it from one sticker pad to the other.
3. New Lego toys : buying new toys for the travel was a huge savoir as toddlers with the surprise element keeps them occupied for a while until they explore it and meddle with it till their hearts content.
4. Snacks : this comes handy when they become cranky. I opted for healthy snacks like dried carrots, apples, ellas fruit smoothies, banana rings and some chocolates to bribe him from crying. Avoid yogurt and dairy food as its prohibited to be carried while check-in and also it becomes a lot messier. Finger foods are the best and safe bet. In flight it’s more important to keep them settled and comfortable rather than trying to fill their stomach with their regular food. So less is more.
5. Co-passenger: striking a friendly conversation with your co passengers could come handy as they might come to your rescue in distracting your toddlers attention in case they whine. In my case my co passenger was very friendly that I was able to leave him with her for me trips to loo or a bottle refill. But thing to be noted is they are strangers and we must be doubly careful before you trust anyone with your kid.
6. Take off and landing: these are the two most stressful times for toddlers and this can be eased by letting them have a bottle of milk as sucking it calms them from the air pressure.  Luckily for me my son feel asleep at both take off and landing.
These are few tips that worked for me, hope it might come handy to you. Please share any other tips that you might know of, that might help in my return trip.

Yummy Green Upma for toddlers

Cooking for a fussy eater is never simple. You got to explore all possibilities to make a fussy toddler eat. Also babies easily get bored of repetition and they don’t want to see the same food again. So I trick my little one by adding a different veggie to the same recipe each time so it becomes a new meal all together.

Also since they are these tiny tots we need to take immense care that we provide them healthy nutritious foods. But to my dismay my little one doesn’t love trying new food/taste rather he wants the food he is comfortable with like rice with yogurt or rice with veggie and lentils else just cereals n selective fruits. Rest is just for him to play with abd get messy. He takes a while to get comfortable with any new food I try be it pasta or roti etc. Since my options are limited I came up with this simple recipe for my son as he loves broccoli and has had semolina/sooji earlier. He loved it so much that he went for another serving.


This is a guilt free food that anyone could try for their toddlers as its nutritious and also filling. So here goes the recipe

Yummy Green Upma Recipe


Semolina – 1/2 cup

Spinach, peas and broccoli – a small handful (washed and cut into small pieces)

Clarified butter/ghee – 1 tsp

Cream – 1 tbsp (optional if you want your little one to gain weight)

Garlic – 1 (optional aids digestion)


  1. Dry roast semolina until it turns golden and keep aside

  2. Add clarified butter to a hot skillet and fry spinach and broccoli along with garlic until the spinach is thawed n wilted and  until broccoli is semi cooked.

  3. Now add water and add peas and allow all the veggies to be thoroughly cooked.

  4. The roasted soonish/semolina could be added to the boiling veggies at this point. Allow sooji to boil until its cooked and all the water us absorbed.

  5. The cooked upma has to be mushy and soft in consistency else add a little more hot water and allow semolina to cook thoroughly.

  6. This step is optional, when upma is almost ready add a dollop of cream which would add flavor and richness

Prevention is better than cure

I could always recollect me having a healthy supple skin and could never remember of days where I was overtly concerned about skin problems like acne, very dry skin,breakouts etc. But things started taking a paradigm shift post my delivery . I started noticing my skin undergoing a lot of changes it becoming dry, itchy to bring very sensitive. Since I never had a history of skin issues my skin care routine had always been very basic and minimal over the years, which is to wash my face using any face wash, moisturize. And I never stuck to one brand earlier as I love to experiment new brands n never held myself back a moment thinking am I putting my skin into a lot of trouble. But now after all these changes creeped up I don’t dare to experiment any more.


That being said, there came a fateful day when I fell sick and took few pills to which I got allergic to. I woke up the next day to see my face on the mirror completely bloated and unidentifiable. It was such a night mare how my face swelled up over night. The irony is the time taken for your body to react to adverse effect is always inversely proportional to the time taken for it to revive back at times it never returns back to normalcy. I too was shit scared as what would happen if my face never returns back to the old me. Not only did my face swell but I also did have dark patches most part of my face. I had to consult the doctor immediately and I had to brave myself to step out with this monsterly transformed face. Fortunately I got a lady doctor who consulted me and she completely understood what I’m going through. She put me at ease asking me not to worry and I would get back to normal soon. I trusted her and so badly wished that came true.

I was prescribed with hydrocortisone cream and allergy relief tablets. Like I said it takes so much time and patience for the skin to revive from all the damage done. My skin started peeling and for days my facial skin used to feel like it’s gonna tear apart with do much dryness. Alongside this I also had such an itchy face with peeling skin I used to feel so let down and inconsolable. Slowly after reduced using hydrocortisone and replaced it by using E45 and coconut oil. I literally used to splash my face with coconut oil and it was such a blessing in disguise. My skin started drinking coconut oil like a desert that was denied rainfall. I started slowly noticing changes the itchiness reduced and so did the dry skin. Though now skin now hasn’t become as supple as earlier its so much better and thanks to coconut oil it has made my skin a lot brighter. That’s a small perk I received for taking good care of my skin for the past few days.

This whole experience had been such an eye opener for me to realise how much we play around and experiment our body using various unnatural methods and chemical cosmetics products, slimming drinks etc. We continue doing this because our body is tolerating all this and there would certainly come a day like I had when the body could no longer resist and hit us back. Prevention is better than cure and I learnt this valuable lesson the hard way.