Making your fussy toddler eat

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I generally call my little one a fussy eater. However my definition of fussy eater being him not having the food I serve. I do prepare him food that he likes but over these months I understand there isn’t any food that he really loves eating apart from his yogurt and chocolates. So I kept wondering is there something I need to improvise on. Do I have to cook  food more deliciously or do I have to present it in a more pleasing appetizing manner. Do I attempt to force feed him so he doesn’t stay empty stomach. These are not just ordinary thoughts but very distressing ones that stresses every mom out there. These thoughts are like plague and once we get into this viscous thought cycle we start thinking about all possible ways and tricks to get our little ones have their food.and this also ruins the harmony of the entire house. After all, all that a mom would ask for is to see her kid with a happy belly.

So how could this be tackled. Just like every other mom I went on reading articles, seeking help from mommy communities, watching YouTube vids and testing these approaches on my little one.
There were advises on force feeding, which I tried once and regret till date, when I once saw my son tremble while sleeping trying to close his mouth. That was such a pathetic sight that any mom would like to see. I realised how fragile our little ones are that just a single attempt could create such an impact and thinking about doing it as a practice was horrifying.
And then there was an advise to cut the intake of milk if he refuses to eat but I couldn’t do that as well. That made my little one very weak since he already hasn’t had his food and then to stop milk only made him brittle. That was the only source of energy and I dont want to force anything on him.
So I started preparing different food items to know if there might be something that he would love to eat. All these attempts only made me desperate and I started losing my patience and calm which was the very crux. Not to force anything on him. When nothing seems to work, when books or gurus,videos don’t help you, you get agitated by your own inability which starts to seep into anger towards our little ones.
Now after all these tantrums I realise there is no set path to make your fussy eater eat. There is nothing called a fussy eater. There are only impatient parents. The only key is to observe and allow our little ones to let us know what is the best way to handle them. Each kid is unique and their needs are different. Some kids would take a lot of time first playing with their food getting their hands dirty understanding the texture of the food and then slowly eat, until which we would not wait. We would have already declared he doesn’t like the food and would have gone ahead preparing something else.
There are also kids who would like to do a taste test prior eating a chunk of food and reject the food right away after their taste test, in which case we need to ensure the first bite is something that they would want to taste.
There are the other lot which just evades from food just by the sight of it, where the trick would be the place Finger food at random places of play so that they would eat them or present food in a  more enticing fashion. These are no brainer and everyone of us knew these stuff all along. But the key or the trick of trade as promised is to take the lead of our kids and let them decide how they want to be fed. Making it more nutritious and nourishing within the given limitations is something each mom has to figure out.
What is your take on this. Would love to hear your opinion on it.
Pic courtesy : littlefusspot

Prevention is better than cure

I could always recollect me having a healthy supple skin and could never remember of days where I was overtly concerned about skin problems like acne, very dry skin,breakouts etc. But things started taking a paradigm shift post my delivery . I started noticing my skin undergoing a lot of changes it becoming dry, itchy to bring very sensitive. Since I never had a history of skin issues my skin care routine had always been very basic and minimal over the years, which is to wash my face using any face wash, moisturize. And I never stuck to one brand earlier as I love to experiment new brands n never held myself back a moment thinking am I putting my skin into a lot of trouble. But now after all these changes creeped up I don’t dare to experiment any more.

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That being said, there came a fateful day when I fell sick and took few pills to which I got allergic to. I woke up the next day to see my face on the mirror completely bloated and unidentifiable. It was such a night mare how my face swelled up over night. The irony is the time taken for your body to react to adverse effect is always inversely proportional to the time taken for it to revive back at times it never returns back to normalcy. I too was shit scared as what would happen if my face never returns back to the old me. Not only did my face swell but I also did have dark patches most part of my face. I had to consult the doctor immediately and I had to brave myself to step out with this monsterly transformed face. Fortunately I got a lady doctor who consulted me and she completely understood what I’m going through. She put me at ease asking me not to worry and I would get back to normal soon. I trusted her and so badly wished that came true.

I was prescribed with hydrocortisone cream and allergy relief tablets. Like I said it takes so much time and patience for the skin to revive from all the damage done. My skin started peeling and for days my facial skin used to feel like it’s gonna tear apart with do much dryness. Alongside this I also had such an itchy face with peeling skin I used to feel so let down and inconsolable. Slowly after reduced using hydrocortisone and replaced it by using E45 and coconut oil. I literally used to splash my face with coconut oil and it was such a blessing in disguise. My skin started drinking coconut oil like a desert that was denied rainfall. I started slowly noticing changes the itchiness reduced and so did the dry skin. Though now skin now hasn’t become as supple as earlier its so much better and thanks to coconut oil it has made my skin a lot brighter. That’s a small perk I received for taking good care of my skin for the past few days.

This whole experience had been such an eye opener for me to realise how much we play around and experiment our body using various unnatural methods and chemical cosmetics products, slimming drinks etc. We continue doing this because our body is tolerating all this and there would certainly come a day like I had when the body could no longer resist and hit us back. Prevention is better than cure and I learnt this valuable lesson the hard way.

Our Flawed Education System

Tare Zameen Par was a movie that moved every audience even the ones with the thickest of skins. As you know that movie was about a kid who suffered dyslexia and struggled through our education system. I strongly believe that not only was it a struggle for some one with difficulty but our education system is equally a struggle for everyone who goes through and went through it. I spent my whole childhood and up until 21 years of age not knowing what I was studying but just bein told to believe that successful completion of this journey would enable me to land in a prospective career. So education to me and to many of us was a tool to survive and not a platform to acquire knowledge. Our whole society has embedded this thought deep within us that we must and should secure highest grade possible. This pressure is vested upon students right from the day they join the school, that rather than enjoying their learning they emerge as mere rank scoring machines who would just scan the book cover to cover rather than the contents. This is such a pathetic situation that students who don’t prefer going through this rat race are deemed inefficient and sidelined.

The whole education system has become a mafia that aims at sourcing money from the common man. There can be no end to this topic, as it’s spun around so many complexities and various parasites who benefit from the system who have altered the whole mindset of people about education, making them believe that it’s a race/competition where everyone should win. The precious childhood of our children are lost in mugging up the books rather than imagining, visualizing and observing the contents. Can’t blame our kids since the subjects are thought with an intent to score marks than alluring the students into the fascinating world of science or mathematics. It’s no wonder that after so many years of independence that India still struggles to promote make in India, as we as a country lack creative leaders. Unless everyone in our system changes right from our parents, the teachers, our society and our education system we can’t provide meaningful education to our children. It’s high time to stop looking at what the education could yield to ones future, to creating a learning experience that nurtures the students.

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Passion Fashion

Cooking is my passion.. I love cooking and exploring new culinary skills.. I try new recipes every now and then and the thought of food makes me happy and I’m a huge foodie. But my cooking is just not limited to this.. Being a wifey  I need to cook day in and day out; cook 3 meals a day for myself and hubby and with added advantage of being the mom of a fussy toddler it’s an additional 4 to 5 meals . So in all I cook or push out on an average of anywhere between 5 to 6 dishes any given day. Do it enjoy doing it.. NAAAAAHHHHHH.. but dint I say cooking is my passion.. don’t I suppose to love toiling in the kitchen. This I believe is the fundamental mistake that most of us do..

In the current trend, we believe passion is the only factor that drives everyone towards a happy and fulfilling living. Agree that passion does play a huge part.. but its not end of the world if you don’t have a passion or don’t know what your passion is. Most important discovery of yourself should be ‘what makes you happy and content’.. it could be as simple as spending time with family to something as complicated as modern art. Passion need not necessarily yield you money.. People are crazy behind this funda that your carrier should be based on your passion. If this happens you are extremely lucky to work and earn by doing something that you love to do. If it doesn’t – no big deal -cause it clearly indicates that you have higher priorities and commitments, which hasn’t enabled you to chase your passion or you simply don’t know your passion. Both these scenarios are absolutely normal.

I have known people who have this fire under their bellies to do or achieve something.. which is awesome.. inspiring.. they go about becoming an entrepreneur , become successful, become rich, become their own boss.. and end up becoming too busy and worn out that they cant spend time with family or for themselves.and worked up.. this prototype would fit someone who is ready to go that extra mile ..Sacrifice their personal space and time and devote it towards their passion.. this prototype would not fit people who are messed up with their current job and want to start up something to escape from all the pressure driven work environment. They would only land up spending more effort and time along with money than their 9-5 job.

So its very important to prioritize and understand what makes you happy and which is more important considering the current space you are in. Just stay grounded and enjoy the simple pleasures of life rather than running behind illusions.

These last words by Steve Jobs is worth thinking about:

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…Should be something that is more important:Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days

Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me. What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.

That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.

What is the most expensive bed in the world? Sick bed…
You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.

Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – Book of Healthy Life. Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends.
Treat yourself well. Cherish others

Do you Gossip????

If there is an interesting time pass for women that they even forget their beloved soaps pass by, it could only be gossiping. I am sorry to say this being a woman myself, but I can’t help it but admit that almost 90% of women’s integral part has become gossiping. All sectors of women fall into this trap, be it a working professional or a house wife. It’s become their birth right.

I really don’t understand what happiness they draw out of back biting, manipulating spoken words, and characterizing people. Are they really aware of the consequences of their act or is it done unintentionally? Whatever be the reason given to justify this act, the aftermath of it is always irreparable damage to ones reputation. Least do the ladies bother to realize what would happen if the same backfires at them.

Women who are usually considered the most responsible, caring, affectionate and matured of the two genders fail to stand tall when it comes to displaying the same attributes towards their fellow neighbors, colleagues and other family members excluding their immediate family. Women who take multiple avatars such as daughter, wife, mother, sister, grandma, lover, girl friend etc also are versatile at camouflaging themselves behind the mask of a gossiper that shatters many people’s lives, relationship and costs much more. It would have become too late to apologize when they realize their mistake and repent.

I do not blame all women but it’s not surprising to see humungous crowd of them falling into this category. My request to my fellow women friends are to be true to the relationship they have with anyone and be straight forward in expressing your views and sort differences out rather being a coward and back biting. Being a transparent person by heart makes life easier and brings happiness to you and others. Be devoid of jealousy and rivalry. Be content with what you have and spread love.

Love yourself for what you are … Be ORIGINAL!!!